"Grudge"--
- noun-- a feeling of ill will or resentment
- verb (w/ object)-- to resent the good fortune of (another); begrudge
- verb (w/o object)-- to feel dissatisfaction or ill will
- SYNONYMS-- bitterness, enmity, hatred, malice, spite, resentment.
"Resentment"--
- noun-- the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult.
- SYNONYMS-- irritation, envy, jealousy, dudgeon
Quote from About.com:
According to a study done by the University of Michigan, a particularly “toxic pattern is when one spouse deals with conflict constructively, by calmly discussing the situation, listening to their partner's point of view, or trying hard to find out what their partner is feeling, for example—and the other spouse withdraws.”
Not facing head on and dealing with conflict in the marriage is like sealing the fate of what should be a lifelong commitment. We don’t think when we marry that we will be called on to step outside our level of comfort and engage in conflict BUT no marriage is conflict free and no marriage survives conflict avoidance.
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